if Your Spouse Doesn't Love you Any More?
Do the Words I Dont Love You Anymore Really Mean?
you been blindsided by an unhappy spouse who suddenly announced, I dont
love you anymore? If so, then you know that these words can split a marriage
wide open, along with the heart of the partner who may not have suspected that
anything was wrong.
most spouses in your situation, you may be confused and struggling to understand
what those five ominous words "I don't love you anymore" really mean.
Lets look at four of the possibilities:
Your Spouse May Have Confused Feelings
most common situation is that the partner has doubts about his feelings. A more
accurate wording might be: I dont think that I love you anymore, but
Im not absolutely sure.
this is what your spouse means, you can often use this doubt, even if its
only a very small doubt, to buy time for your marriage. Your spouse may be more
likely to agree to go to marriage counseling while he takes additional time to
determine if he really wants to leave the marriage or not.
than framing an appeal to your spouse as doing you a favor, say instead, Please
dont throw away your investment of time in our marriage yet. This
request reminds him that hes losing something if he walks away.
give up. There's still hope for you even if your spouse:
to go to marriage counseling,
"in love" with you any longer,
a marriage separation,
know if he or she wants to stay married,
asked for a divorce, or
already living separately from you.
him recall all the energy, hard work, and dreams he has invested in the marriage
so far. He may conclude that it just makes good sense for him to wait until hes
absolutely sure about what he wants to do. Read
You Stay Or Should You Go
helps you decide whether to get a divorce or leave your love relationship.
If you don't invest some quality time now in taking a true, honest and truthful
look at the state of your relationship, you could stay stuck in this place of
indecision for a very long time.
amazing to us how many people are content to stay stuck in this place of indecision
about their relationship--wasting so much precious time when they could be experiencing
an incredible relationship filled with love, passion and joy.
encourage you to take an honest look at your situation and feel how much pain
you've been feeling about this relationship-