Internet Addiction
Internet Addiction
What is Internet Addiction


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To deny this part of you, which KNOWS the truth, creates a tremendous internal turmoil.


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Internet Addiction

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"An affair may be the cause of drifting apart, but drifting apart may result in an affair".

Millions of people are drawn to the internet by way of learning, knowledge, fun, technology, buying, selling, fun, human Interaction or plain trying to earn a living.
One reason is human interaction found in chat rooms, dating, gambling & online interactive games.

Chat rooms are autonomous and very deceiving.
You can become anyone or anything you desire, without fear of reprisal.
All you have to do is choose a name and start chatting.
You might be a very truth full person, but are the once answering you of the same mindset?
Every day we hear of horror stories of young children being deceived or abused by someone they innocently met on the Internet.

What is Internet Addiction?

Internet Addiction is a broad term covering a wide-variety of behaviors and impulse-control problems. It is important to understand that there are five specific types of Internet addiction:

Cybersexual Addiction – Individuals who suffer from Cybersexual addiction typically are either engaged in viewing, downloading, and trading online pornography or involved in adult fantasy role-play chat rooms.
Cyber-Relational Addiction – Individuals who suffer from Chat Room Addiction become over-involved in online relationships or may engage in virtual adultery. Online friends quickly become more important to the individual often at the expense of real life relationships with family and friends. In many instances, this will lead to marital discord and family instability.
Net Gaming – Net gaming encompass a broad category of behaviors including obsessive online gambling, gaming, shopping, or stock trading behaviors. In particular, individuals will utilize virtual casinos, interactive games, e-auction houses, or e-brokerage houses only to loose excessive amounts of money and even disrupt other job-related duties or significant relationships.
Information Overload – The wealth of data available on the World Wide Web has created a new type of compulsive behavior regarding excessive web surfing and database searches. Individuals will spend greater amounts of time searching and collecting data from the web and organizing information. Obsessive compulsive tendencies and reduced work productivity are typically associated with this behavior.
Computer Addiction – In the 80s, computer games such as Solitaire and Minesweeper were programmed into computers and researchers found that obsessive computer game playing became problematic in organizational settings as employees spent most days playing rather than working. These games are not interactive nor played online.
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Addiction Triggers
by Archibald Hart, Ph.D.

The two major drives that underlie the addictive process, excitement seeking and tension reduction, are often “set off” by a particular starting stimulus. We can call this the “trigger mechanism” for the addiction. It is the emotion or occurrence that starts a given cycle of addictive behavior.

Let’s imagine that Dave, a fictitious salesman, is generally bored with his job, but he loves to ski. Skiing is the only source of real excitement in Dave’s life; he lives for the snow slopes and dreams about nothing else. Clearly he is an addict because he neglects every other aspect of his life.

Now, say it is Friday morning. Dave usually spends Fridays in the office writing up orders and processing his paperwork. This is a part of his job he particularly hates. Every form, letter, and purchase order is like poison to him; he even dislikes touching them.

Dave checks his watch. Nine-thirty in the morning. Still six and a half hours to go before quitting time. He tries to concentrate, but the dull routine of his job acts as a stimulus for his addictive need. Boredom is the trigger for his addiction craving. He wants to be on the mountain. He wants to feel the cold chill of the wind and hear the swish of the skis. He checks his watch again. Only 9:50. The more bored Dave becomes, the more he craves his skiing fix. It’s going to be a long day!

Trigger mechanisms like Dave’s boredom begin the addictive craving for a given cycle of need. They differ from person to person and from addictive behavior to addictive behavior. Often the roots of these trigger mechanisms can be traced to experiences we disliked as a child. Here are some common triggers:

anxiety -isolation -boredom -
depression -crises -sense of failure -
unmet sexual needs -criticism -selfish needs

The last of the above list, selfish needs, is a major trigger for many addictions. Technically known as “polarized narcissism,” it is usually found in people who have suffered from early life disruption or damage and whose nurturance and dependency needs have not been met. Such people often develop a deep desire for instant gratification. They know where, when, and how they want it, and they want it now! For instance, they demand instant and excessive affirmation for even small attempts at work or in relationships. The needs of others never enter the picture. They are focused only on their own needs.

There are many other possible triggers for addictive behavior. In fact, anything that threatens failure, rejection, or abandonment can become a stimulus for an addiction cycle. Add to this the personality traits of passivity, under-assertiveness, or dependency, and you have a powerful set of addictive triggers.

Excerpted from Healing Life’s Hidden Addictions by Dr. Archibald Hart, published by Servant Publications, Healing life's hidden addictions: Overcoming the closet compulsions that waste your time and control your life

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Internet Tips for Real-Time Quality Living

Turn off the computer.

Don't use the internet when you are bored. Use the internet only when you have to for banking or school work, etc.

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Plan a family week of just reading, sports, exercise, biking, hiking, simple walks, being outdoors or watching a good movie together.

This includes your children's time on the internet. Don't use the internet as a baby-sitter. If your children are addicted to games get them off the computer.

Now is the time to change. If you make no changes in your life, time will continue to pass. Make small changes in how you expend your free time. The purpose of this is to beat the repetitious cycle of the behavior.

If you have personal problems, try your best to face them and take action. If you are stressed out from work, perhaps it is time to get a new and better job. Do not fear change, embrace it. We need to move forward in life, not beat ourselves up.

Get off the Net!!!!!!!!!

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"Infidelity is often a symptom of a couple drifting apart. Divorce is easier for couples who drift apart, compared with infidelity, as there is no feeling of betrayal or rejection. Divorce is also far more accepted nowadays by society. A man who trades in a wife for a younger woman won’t get pilloried today by his community or church, for example.
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