all have more inner resources than we realize. If they lie dormant, they are like
diamonds buried deep in ones backyard. |
The potential for wealth is
there but it wont be utilized. So look for peoples potential strengths
and point them out in a way that is acceptable to them. These are strengths of
memory and intelligence. These are talents and skills that can be developed into
expertise. These are insights and creativity.
you express a strength in any area even once, you have the ability to upgrade
that strength in more areas of your life many more times and in many more contexts.
This means that if you have the courage to speak up even once you can speak up
many more times when it is appropriate. If you can learn one word of a language,
you can learn an entire language when you are determined and patient. If you can
be patient in one situation, you can be patient in many different situations.
If you can concentrate while reading anything, you can learn to concentrate in
many more contexts. Amazing, isnt it!
you believe that you personally can upgrade your strengths in all contexts, you
can teach this to others. Theoretically you could teach this to others even if
you dont apply it yourself. But if you dont exemplify what you expound,
your message is not likely to be very effective. So applying your strengths in
all contexts is a prerequisite for helping others do so. This is one of the greatest
gifts you can give your family and friends.
someone tells you that they cant do something, ask them if they have ever
done this even once. "If you can do it once, it means your brain knows how
to do it," you can tell them.
but I have done this only in a limited way in another area," they might protest.
you have already done this, if you do the exact same thing again, you are likely
to get the same results, arent you?" is your response.
if you have helped even one person get in touch with one strength, you can get
that person in touch with additional strengths. And if you have done this for
one person, you can do this for many people.
of my students told me this story:
used to view myself as being uncreative. I remember the day a prominent neighbor
told me that I was creative.
I did a couple of things that might seem creative," I argued against my own
best interests. "But Im not really creative. And what I did wasnt
at it objectively," I was told. "You have to admit there were elements
of creativity in what you did."
was correct. There were creative aspects in what I had done. And from then on,
I have viewed myself as creative. This has made a major impact on my entire life.
I now feel an obligation to help other people discover their strengths the way
someone helped me find mine.
Zelig Pliskin, author - courtesy of: partnersinkindness.org - "Kindness is
like music, art, sports or any other discipline -- it can only be mastered with
practice, training, and lots and lots of encouragement.
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