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Why Acting
Angry Doesn't Work
But
no matter what the reason, no matter how justified you think you anger is, acting
angry almost always serves to make your problems worse. You
see there is a big difference between feeling angry and acting angry. Understanding
your anger and expressing the hurt feelings that typically underlie your anger
offer you an opportunity to deepen your intimate connection with your spouse. But
acting angry almost never works. It usually drives a wedge between the two of
you, and in some cases it causes more problems. Click
Here - Surviving
an Affair
Dear
Maple:
I have been
in a relationship for about 6 months. Four of the 6 months have been forced to
be long distance. We have future plans to someday be together, however my girlfriend
recently slipped and kissed someone while she was intoxicated. She keeps apologizing
but I can't seem to get over this yet, I wish I could just forgive her and move
on but I feel as though a part of my heart has been trampled on. Should I give
her another chance or dump her? I've heard that once someone cheats they are always
going to be a cheater. Leah
 A.
Check their emails, get the passwords, shows you every site
they visit and for how long with Spector Monitoring Software records both sides
of the conversations Click
Here
Be sure you own the computer you install this software on or it may be illegal.
This is a very temporary measure - if you want them to stop read my eBook"How
to Stop Internet Infidelity".
Dear
Maple: Over the years,
he's verbally abused me by calling me awful names and even tried to choke me a
couple of times. He has apologized ... and then we become friends again.
A.
Glenda:
While I am an advocate for most marriages, if one is truly unhappy they should
separate firstly or divorce. I would never ever tolerate abuse of any kind in
a relationship. How could you respect him after all of this? It is no wonder there
is no emotional feelings for him. I would think some peace of mind and respect
for yourself would be worth much more. Do you not have any family or some where
to turn to for help. Even if you just had a small safe place to live would be
worth anything. I would gladly have a rented room being a caregiver in a house
than have no peace of mind. You deserve so much more and you know you do or you
would not be feeling this way. Ultimately the choice is yours and its your life.
Do what is right for you. An opportunity will come to you if you choose it. Whatever
you do stay friends with him. Why do you want to be friends with him? Because
its for your best interest right now. Don't hesitate to write again if I can help.
Here are some articles to check out: http://www3.telus.net/KWRC/whatisabuse.html http://www.leavingabuse.com/cycle_of_abuse.html Join
our support group - they will have lots of compassion for you. If one is being
abused tell others - don't keep it a secret.
Best wishes. AskMaple
Q.
My husband travels extensively - How can I record his suspicious calls? Diane
Get him to use the Call Recorder Card - digital
recording without the recorder -
Click Here
The card works like a telephone calling card but records.
Okay I recently
had a stroke but while in the hospital my husband accused me of having sex with
a man and he had sex with 2 different women. I forgave him now and he says I know
who this man is who is out to ruin him. He say she's being followed ever since
I came home from rehab. Because of my stroke he argues with me and we live with
my uncle who kicked him out and all I do is cry and I miss my husband and my husband
works and lives somewhere else. He has no given me any money nor has he helped
me in any way to make sure I'm okay and has a girlfriend now what can I do? I
am so depressed over this that I cry all night missing him. Veronica
Do you really want to
save the marriage or do you think you should hang in there for religious, moral
or other “should” reasons? Most spouses who partner with those who can’t
say no are very conscientious people. Is that you? Do you want to do the right
thing? Are you willing to continue feeling the humiliation and facing the dangers
because you believe you should stay in the marriage? Do convictions rather than
practical and personal concerns dictate your decisions?
Dr. Bob can answer all these questions in detail.Check
Out Dr. Huizenga's Marriage Saving Solutions today...don't delay...
I
have been married for 1 year and a half, my husband just got home from Iraq 4
months ago. Not long after he came home he started showing signs of cheating,
all of them really. Well, I left to go to my mothers house and while I was gone
he acted very badly. I caught on to some and he told me allot. But I don't believe
he is telling me the whole truth. I feel like his reform is fake and that he is
just telling me what I want to hear. He told me he did not have sex with anyone
while I was gone, but he had more than enough proof against him saying he did,
and then his distance got worse. Know he claims he is a new man and it will never
happen again, but how do I believe him when I just have a feeling he is not being
truthful. I don't want my marriage to end because he tells me I paranoid but I
don't want to believe lies. Amanda
My boyfriend
and I have been together for 3 years. When we first started dating I was really
okay with him going out with his friends etc. As time elapsed I noticed that I
became very jealous and angry a lot if he would go out with his friends. I began
to feel that he would find someone else and leave me. I guess because I have been
hurt in the pass (i.e. found my ex in my bed with another girl) My boyfriend tells
me that I need to stop being so jealous. I do not trust anyone at all. What can
I do? I love my boyfriend so much, I do not want to loose him. Disiree.
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