building self esteem


Building Self Esteem


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Why be Concerned with Self-Esteem? For one, your children learn by observation. When you treat yourself disrespectfully or allow others to do so, you're sending a clear message to your kids: "I don't deserve to be treated well. Feel free to disrespect me as much as I disrespect myself." People with healthy self-esteem don't allow others to abuse them. If your self-esteem is low, it will affect how you are treated on the job, by future love interests, and even by friends and family who profess to love you. The resources that have always been at your disposal -- knowing who you are, knowing what you stand for, and knowing where you're going in your life – may feel like they've vanished. But they haven't.

Your core resources are still there . . . they're just blocked.

And if they can be blocked, they can also be unblocked.

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Building Self Esteem

Building Self-Esteem


Self Esteem is learned behavior. If you didn't have good models of self esteem as children from your parents, or at school, then you may never have had the opportunity to acquire the habit for yourself. Men and women traditionally have different social orientations as well. Many people want to break out of their passive roles but often make the mistake of believing that the only alternative is to be aggressive and they see aggressive behavior as unacceptable. Self Esteem behavior is the third way and, unlike aggressive behavior.

Recognizing aggression, submission and self esteem

Aggressive behavior is characterized by shouting, pointing, making threats, swearing and insulting other people. Aggressive language includes over-use of I-statements, put-downs, stating opinions as facts (obviously..., anyone can see...). Submissive behavior is characterized by fidgety movements, fear of eye contact, whining tones, apologies, beating about the bush. Self Esteem behavior involves a relaxed stance, steady eye contact, calm voice, appropriate use of I-statements and suggestions and questions rather opinions and threats.

Situations where people find self esteem behavior difficult

It may be difficult to:

express praise and affection openly
give vent to negative feelings
refuse requests and invitations
show anger
give a personal opinion
ask for help
To decide if you have problems with self esteem behavior, look at the list above and make note of the situations when you have problems in these areas. The difficulties might arise at home, at work, with elders or superiors, with friends, in social situations or dealing with day-to-day matters such as shopping, doctors' appointments, parents' meetings.

Putting self esteem behavior into practice: fundamentals

Constantly striving to live up to some unattainable ideal can make you feel inadequate. One way of reversing the negative attitudes you may be carrying inside about yourself, is to focus on what is positive in others and in your own situation. Start verbalizing what you like about your family and friends and they will start to return the compliments. Make a resolution to say something positive to each person you meet during a day: 'I like your hairstyle today; that color suits you.' Make a list of the ten things you like most about your home and your work. Start training yourself to look for the positive aspects of your situation. Next you need to focus on yourself and list your own best attributes. This process is not designed to blind you to shortcomings and problems but to help you have a more balanced view of your world

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- Offers skills and concepts to overcome and manage assertiveness problems. It is most effective for those who are fully aware of their need to find help for their assertiveness problems. Goals for participants are to reduce shame, guilt, and isolation, to learn effective coping skills leading to increase self-esteem.

The Complete Self Esteem Workbook

Suffering from low self esteem is a very frustrating thing, as you sink lower into it, the world around you and any way out of the situation seems to close up around you.

You are blocked and confined and feel unable to be who you know you are underneath it all.

It is all well and good to give yourself a pep talk, to pull yourself together and try to view your life differently. But we all know that that approach has a limited and temporary result.

The stark truth of the matter is that things are not going to magically change all by themselves; it takes a decisive and structured approach to bring about lasting change, the action you need to take in order to effectively remove the problem of low self esteem is covered in detail in the course.

It is possible for you to change, but to change in a definite, positive and lasting way it takes something more than a “new year’s resolution,” a "positive thought" or even a “determined effort.”

It is a problem of knowing what to do to effectively change the fixed and negative frame of mind which is behind your low self esteem, once you know how to do that, once you have the key for that door, it opens without effort and the opening of it can be called nothing other than a personal revelation.

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